Annette Chesney“I should’ve…”
“I wish I would’ve…”
“If only I could’ve…”
These are the words we use as a baseball bat to beat ourselves up with.
May I suggest an alternate perspective for you?
The next time “should’ve, would’ve, could’ve” pops up in your self-talk or out of your mouth in reference to yourself, go ahead and reflect on it as a point of analysis.
Turn it into something constructive, something useful to help you become wiser, stronger, and better than before.
- What’s your takeaway that will help you train, encourage, and coach others?
- How can you glean nuggets of wisdom empowering you for the future?
- What have you learned about yourself as a result of this experience?
- If I had the opportunity to redo this, what would I change?
- What’s the story I’m telling myself about myself concerning this?
You can’t find the silver lining in this until you release yourself from the guilt, embarrassment, and regret you feel associated with what did or didn’t happen.
We all get slapped with difficult experiences and hard seasons of life.
We all make mistakes at times.
We all miss the mark sometimes.
Are you going to let it keep you stuck, cause you to shrink back, or allow it to diminish your power and identity?
Satan wins when you do.
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
Romans 8:28 NLT
As you move forward you can live in the truth of Romans 8:28 if you remember these 3 mindsets:
- Be gracious to yourself as you grow.
- Be gracious to others as they grow.
- Be deliberate about finding the good God is bringing forth that would never have happened without you experiencing what you did.
Lay down the baseball bat and look for the silver lining in what you just went through. It’s there and you’ll be better for it.
